Happy Birthday

You would’ve been 1.

Music listened to:

Happy Birthday (Flipsyde)

He Said…

“Fire the maid, I’ll help” he said…

“Don’t worry about my mum, I’ll stand up for you” he said…

“I’ll never cheat on you” he said…

“I’ll always love you” he said…

“I love you unconditionally but I don’t feel like making a baby with you” he said…

“I’m bored” I said. “I’ll find something to keep you busy” he said…

“Let’s talk”I said. “I am visual, let’s watch something” he said…

“Let’s meet my friends”I said. “They are too much work” he said…

“She was my best” he said…

“But he cheats on me” I said. “That’s how every man is, you need to stay with him so you aren’t lonely when you are old” he said…

“I was raped” I said. “Its okay” he said…

“I feel patronized” I said. “I’m not patronizing you” he said…

“Let’s make love” I said. “I’m tired” he said…

“I will hate you one day” I said. “If you aren’t going to be with someone else other than me, you might as well be with me” he said…

He said…

Your every loving,

Ignorant God

Music listened to:

When a woman’s fed up (R.Kelly, on repeat)

Today is the day

Love is a cage filled with a weird sense of despair, among other ‘good’ things of course. The dreamy writers who wrote fairy tales must have been very very high on something. Truth be told, there is no prince charming that sweeps you off your feet. There is no princess that talks to the birds and the rats. There definitely is no happy ever after. Dreamy ones like me always have to burst that little rosy bubble and wake up to reality at some point.

There comes a point in life where we have to wake up, look around and realize what our priorities are. I should be worrying about how much money I can save. For all the years I didn’t give a flying fuck about work, saving up or giving a shit about anything. My bubble has definitely burst. Today is the day I realize that it isn’t all about being in awe of the universe, of what it holds and how beautiful a rainbow is. Today is the day I grow up. Today is the day I let go of the child in me. Today is the day I shed the immaturity.

Today is also the day my dog had the worst seizure of his life. Today is also the day I didn’t get the job I was keen on getting. C’est la vie… What goes around comes around.

Your every loving,

Ignorant god

Music listened to:

Little broken hearts, lonestar, cold cold heart: Norah Jones

It meant something

The birds do it, the bees do it and all the mammals on the planet do it. The reason we exist is to procreate which entitles all creatures to sex. While I have no problems with sex, I do, however, have a problem with the way people talk about it. Sure, you might just be doing it because you are physically attracted or you just had the option of a one night stand or you just want a ‘relationship’ with no strings attached. You might be having sex because you love someone or you lust for them or you are married to them. When you explain your sexual experiences to other people, why does it have to be “it just happened”, “It meant nothing”, and “it was mechanical”.

For starters, there is nothing that happens in your sphere of existence that means nothing. Everything we do everyday means something. If it didn’t, you wouldn’t be doing it or even be inclined to think about it. As humans who have more than two brain cells to put 2 and 2 together, why are we busy explaining to people that it meant nothing. Are you really trying to say that you are a human being with no intellect and can be robotic in an act of passion?

The biggest difference between a robot and a human is that we feel emotions that a robot doesn’t feel. How in your right mind can you make “things just happen” or make it mean nothing? At that point in your life, it does mean something. You either want it or you don’t. And if you did want it, please be brave enough to accept that it did mean something and that maybe it doesn’t mean anything anymore. But if your brain has that memory, it DID mean something. Period.

Your ever loving,

Ignorant god.

Music listened to:

La Sitiera, Killing me softly, Tabu : Omara Portuondo, Flor de amor

Feel Free To Feel

Loneliness is a pretty scary word, isn’t it? Ever been in a room full of people and felt really alone? I know I have. There have been times when I’ve been around people whose company I thoroughly enjoy and felt very alone. But on the other hand, I have also enjoyed that loneliness. We are all alone, think about it. Who else can know what is going on in your head but you? You are free, you are alone!

Most of the times we are extremely cautious about speaking up and letting people know what’s on our minds. There is a fear of being judged. What you feel is never wrong. There can never be a wrong with feelings. Nobody can ever tell you that what you are feeling is unwarranted or unfair. We are all entitled to our feelings. Why are we afraid to feel? There are times we share our feelings with our loved ones. When we share, we are either understood or misunderstood. How other people react to how you feel doesn’t need to change how you feel.

I once had a conversation with a friend about ‘cheating’ in a relationship. I asked her “What defines cheating?” To which she replied “you can’t define cheating in a relationship. It is about feeling cheated”. Feelings are personal, different people react in different ways. No two people can react to a situation the same way. As individuals, why can we not respect the fact that everybody is entitled, I rewrite, entitled to what we feel.

Your mind is yours, only yours.

Your ever loving,

Ignorant god.

Music listened to:

They can’t take that away from me – Frank Sinatra, Before you accuse me – Eric Clapton, Cold as ice – Foreigner

The Myth Of the Perfect Relationship

Men and women are different from each other, there is no secret there. The gender differences have been analyzed and over analyzed. We know that men and women are wired differently. Why? Whoever created us wanted some entertainment and decided to make it as chaotic as possible.

For those of us who choose to have ‘normal’ relationships, it’s not easy. It is frustrating sometimes, to a point where we go into dark places not knowing how to react, make the other person understand what you are going through because of this different wiring. Men are always complaining about how women don’t understand and vice versa.

Is there a point to relationships? Most of us are afraid of ending up alone and lonely at an older age. Some of us are worried about society wondering why we are still single. Some of us are just going with the flow of what everybody else does. Some of us want someone we can share our lives with or someone who can support us emotionally. This generally drives people into the wrong relationships, the end of which causes severe emotional trauma, pain, misery and unwanted feelings of inferiority. Why do we find the wrong people at the right time? I don’t know. Why do we find the right people at the wrong time? I don’t know. Why do we find people at all? I don’t know.

Most of us change so much in a relationship, it’s like not being yourself anymore. Most of us are always trying to work our lives around the other person. I don’t see that as a bad thing if YOU think the change is for YOUR good. Don’t do it to make someone else happy. People are evolving, change is imperative, relationships are different. A lot revolves around time and money. Yet, we run around to find the perfect guy/gal. There is no perfect, there will probably never be perfect.

The new age relationships require low or no expectations to be happy because that is what the world has come to. And then people wonder why a lot of people these days do not want to get into the hassle of a relationship because that is what it is now, a hassle. LOL

Your ever loving,

Ignorant god.

Music listened to:

Goodbye to romance, crazy train, no more tears – Ozzy Osbourne

Friends… Really?

Where do I start? The word ‘friend’ scares me these days to a point where I can feel my brain exploding all over the place. A friend to me is someone you can enjoy your time with, someone you have a really good conversation with and someone who’s there when you need them the most. What happened to the good old days when you met a friend, went out for a drink and had a very good conversation. I’d always go home feeling lighter and happy.

Friendship in this day and age is crazy. I am not sure if people’s egos get in the way or are they just trying to be assholes! Here are some of the most ridiculous things I have heard and why I think these people do not deserve anybody around them.

  • “I don’t call, people call me” – Excuse me, what? Last I heard, friendship was a two way street. Did the miss the circular for this one? How do you even say something like this to a friend and expect them to stick around? I’ve met several of this kind and these narcissistic idiots can’t seem to rise above themselves. They believe that the world revolves around them and even if they know that your life is shit and you are in a miserable state of mind, you have to keep calling them and ask if they want to hang out. I hope they can find the comfort of their own species and create a small clan. But wait, they don’t call, remember?
  • “I don’t do well around other people” – This is the super dangerous, volatile and creepy kinds. You don’t know when they will change their minds about anything. I’ve had the immense pleasure (in other words, pain in the butt) of meeting one of these people. They’ll come out with you and ask to be introduced to new people and then do something really stupid. I’ve had a bunch of people get uncomfortable around this ‘uniquely designed specimen’ and then the way to wiggle out of the situation is to say “oh! But I don’t do well around other people”. There I am, feeling like an idiot, confused about what I did wrong and they actually guilt you into thinking that you made them uncomfortable calling all those people in the first place. They make you feel sorry for them for what they do wrong, blaming it on the excessive drinking because of the uncomfortable company. Emotional drama awaits you with this one. But they always leave you with amusing stories for you to entertain other people.
  • “You have to stop meeting those people” – Ha ha! I actually laugh at this kind. These are the friends who expect you to live by their rules. If they don’t like someone in your friend circle, until you stop hanging out with they, they insist on not hanging out with you. No love lost brother! I’d rather go befriend a dog on the street who doesn’t give a shit about who I hang out with than even go through the whole ordeal of meeting an egotistical moron like you.

The list can go on but these weird whackos needed a mention in honor of the grueling time I have spent with them.

If there is a god, he was high on something when he made them.

Your ever loving,

Ignorant god

Music listened to:

Furelise, 7th Symphony, Flight of the Bumble Bee – Beethoven (May he rest in peace)

Let them be

So the other day I was walking around in a mall when I overheard a woman comment about another woman. Okay, go ahead talk about other people. It’s a free country right? But what she said shocked me out of my wits! She pointed at a young girl walking ahead of her and said “Look at what she’s wearing; no wonder women like her are raped”. I am still appalled by what was said and I think I am still very angry at the audacity of such a remark.

Do women who say these things hear themselves? What gives them the sense of entitlement to make statements like these? I do not think that this is a matter where one woman can empathize with another unless she has gone through a similar experience. But can’t one woman understand the pain of another?

I admire women who dress sexy and why not? If you have it, flaunt it. I don’t know if women dress to please themselves or please men but that really doesn’t matter. Who am I to judge? If god, as per the religious texts, wanted women to cover up then why the hell would he make them the way they are? Another fucked up test for his devotees? I was in another conversation the other day when somebody brought up modesty in dressing and how that was god’s will. So are you telling me that all those women sunbathing on nude beaches all over the world are going to hell because they are being immodest? Are we ever going to get past our physicality? Its just a body, for crying out loud!

Stop judging, let people eat, drink, wear whatever they want to.

Your ever loving,

Ignorant god

Music Listened to:

Prayer (Continuous mix) – Robin Schulz

Human Conditioning

I love having people over! Yes, I try to be the perfect host but the underlying excitement is always provoking people into topics that will bring out their real opinions on topics that might be taboo or just misunderstood by ‘regular folk’. One of the most interesting conversations I remember from all these conversational experiments was what people thought about upbringing, conditioning and societal constructs.

I was brought up in a very orthodox catholic environment. God was the center of the universe; there was a clear definition between good & bad, right & wrong… As I was forcefully pushed into these religious beliefs, the urge to rebel grew more intense. I left home, moved to a new city, made my own friends and also developed my own beliefs and faith. I wasn’t interested in what the religious books had to say, although I have read a couple of them through and through. I wanted to explore what was out there, make my own definition of right & wrong. And that brings me back to my original point, conditioning and various opinions people have on the subject.

A friend once said, we should take a few children to an island and tell them what is right or wrong according to us. My question to that was, “wouldn’t that still be conditioning the human mind?” to which the answer was, “Yes, but we are good people, we do not follow religions and we know how to live a better life”. Do we? How do we know? From the time we are younger, we are taught certain things that are generic across the world. Can we not make our own decisions on what is right or wrong? Why do we need religions/religious books/religious leaders to teach us these things? Isn’t that an insult to all human intelligence, if there is any? But again, I guess this whole concept of letting people do what they think is right and not judging them keeping our ‘stickler values’ as a gauge is going to take a while to change.

For a second, let’s just assume that we weren’t taught anything. My fear of the dark comes from the fact that I was told there was a boogie man lurking around the corner and I had to eat really quick if I didn’t want him to come get me. Would I not have this fear if I wasn’t told that when I was younger? Parenting is not an easy job, I get it. But are parents inevitably letting our future generations fear the unnecessary? Or is it necessary? We’ll never know…

Your ever loving,

Ignorant god

Music listened to:

True Colors- Phil Collins, Hello Seatlle – Owl City, How Bizzare – OMC, Wonderwall – Oasis.

My favorite people

Ah! My favorite people – the gays! Is that politically correct? Don’t care, I have massive respect for these people. Now I’ll tell you why I love these people.

Society has always looked down on them. Religions have always looked down on them. Wait, before you flood me with “my religion is not like that”, I am talking about the religions that do look down on gays. It takes tremendous amount of guts to even come out of the closet and be open about your sexual preferences. That’s one of the reasons I respect them so much, they have the courage to defy what we’ve been taught about ‘man’ & ‘woman’.

Okay, so this is what I am wondering about now. The fact remains that some people might have always preferred a person from the same gender. Think of all those people who never knew that they were gay? Or even those people who have been with another man or woman and realized that only someone from the same gender understands them the best? Can you imagine what these people must be going through? Suffering from all that mental torture of knowing what you want and not being able to do anything about it? And then having ‘god-fearing’ people laugh at them?

Yeah, I get it, god made us this way right? Is this some sort of stupid test? I thought god loved us all unconditionally, they why in satan’s name would he be testing all those people he loved very much. And if it is okay for god to test us, then why are all those shrink’s sitting out there, prescribing floroxin, asking couples not to put each other to the test? Why the fuck is this whole concept so confusing?

Dear god, if you are reading this, please stop confusing us more than we already are. Oh and if you can, please stop sending messages through your messengers because they think that fucking little boys and chopping people’s heads off in your name is fucking brilliant.

Your ever loving,

Ignorant god

Music listened to:

Pefect – Pink, Dreamer – Ozzy Osbourne, Fireflies – Owl City, Hello Seattle – Owl City